Here Is One Trigger Why You Get Stressed: When Your Brain Says Yes And Your Gut Says No

Claudia Brose
6 min readJul 12, 2023

How you can cut out this one stressor in your life by saying No more often

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Stressed out — because of saying Yes if you actually mean No

You say yes, but deep inside you mean No. You say No, but deep inside you mean Yes.

You are not aligned, your brain and your gut disagree, and your mouth and your heart do speak not the same.

The rational, educated, polite version of you says Yes to the dinner invitation, the extra work project, the second piece of cake, or to helping paint your friend’s house.

The caring, conscious, protective version of you says No because you are aware of your priorities, of how to spend your time and care for your well-being so you can show up with energy and good spirits for others and yourself.

Letting the rational and polite version guide you, ignoring your values and principles — that’s when you get all stressed out.

Saying Yess Can Be Stress

To say Yes to something you are not standing behind is stressful.

A person or group who asks or requests something from you that you feel uncomfortable to do, turn into…

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Claudia Brose

Writer, Event-Creator, Marketing Professional turned Rebel against a rushed world | Japan mad | Cyclist | Get my Newsletter Un-Rush claudiabrose.substack.com